Benjamin Fry
PSYCHOTHERAPIST, AUTHOR, FOUNDER, TELEVAGAL, KHIRON CLINICS AND GET STABLE
Benjamin is the Founder of Televagal, Khiron House and Get Stable. He is an accredited psychotherapist, author and entrepreneur. He has had a rich and varied career, combining his interests in psychology, the media and business. In his twenties he went to film school and made a feature length film which was distributed by HBO and Paramount, then founded and ran nightclubs and restaurants, before starting a family, training as a psychotherapist and writing his first book which led to presenting a television series for the BBC, as the psychotherapist in Spendaholics.
More recently he has combined his business experience, clinical training and media skills to set up Khiron Clinics, one of the only residential trauma-treatment centres in the world; to lobby for more effective treatment in the public sector through his non-profit Get Stable; and to develop Televagal which delivers nervous-system informed technology for a variety of behavioural health problems. Benjamin is also a practicing couples’ therapist, using trauma and nervous-system informed therapies to help his clients optimise and heal their relationships.
Workshop Six - Benjamin Fry - Can You Have Trauma And A Great Relationship?
Trauma, especially in childhood, creates difficulties with attachments and interpersonal relationships.
Attachment wounds can themselves become traumatic as they start to leave lasting difficulties on all of our relationships, nowhere more so than in our romantic relationships, where arguably the stakes can be highest. So can we ever have a truly great, safe and healthy relationship if we have trauma and attachment wounds? This session answers that question with a message of hope, and suggests a path from relationship difficulties that cause failure to sustainable and incredible success for those who still suffer from the ongoing effects of trauma and attachment issues.
Learning Outcomes:
1. To understand the origins and meaning of trauma; that it is in the body and creates involuntary reactions to life’s events (triggers) based onunfinished reactions to the past (baggage).
2. To understand how trauma creates attachment wounds; how the legacy of involuntary reactions to life, which can be too big or too small, changes.
3. To create a specific map of how parenting failure in childhood towards us creates exaggerated needs in the three specific domains of power, love and money; and how these relate to what we manifest in our relationships.
4. To learn a method to inventory what similarities and differences there are for couples in what makes them feel safe, loved and is fun; and how to process these inventories collaboratively to make the whole greater than the sum of any conflictual parts.
