A child’s bad behavior isn’t ‘attention-seeking.’ She’s seeking a relationship.
How does a young child express to adults their fear of abandonment or their longing for more of us, if not by seeking our attention?
As an educator of early childhood teachers, and a consultant for parents and early childhood programs, I am constantly asked about various children: “What do I do with her? She needs so much attention.” Wherever I go, visiting classrooms or observing student teachers, over and over again I hear adults saying: “He is just doing it for attention. Ignore him.”